My biggest problem with all the discussion around sex work and porn is not how it makes some people survive, some people live, some people happy. It\u2019s like, \u201ccool story, hoe.\u201d (I HAD to do it, only five years that I\u2019m writing English)<\/p>\n
My biggest problem is that sex work and porn are so ridiculously aimed toward men\u2019s really dumb sex culture that it inherently cannot be something good for women, as we can witness: look out for sex discussions online today and you will see young women finding masturbation \u2013touching your own body- disgusting while they think they should have anal sex to have \u201creal sex without problems\u201d. <\/p>\n
I mean that\u2019s fucking twisted, people. That needs to stop. It\u2019s damn confusing for them too. <\/p>\n
See, women even the horniest ones are not avidly collecting DVDs full of big dicks and if they do, they don\u2019t brag about it. Women don\u2019t argue to have the ability, the right<\/em> to pay for sex. They mostly don\u2019t do that, only men. Not all men, just some<\/em> of us. <\/p>\n So why the fuck would we shape ALL laws and ALL markets for those guys? That\u2019s ridiculous. <\/p>\n It\u2019s the same pattern with porn business: fine, porn, fetish, hardcore sex, no biggie. These are performers, nothing good or bad. But why is that always so awful with a focus on what I guess old white dudes in control of that industry think is turning people on? Why the nails, why the heels, why the gross dudes (\u201cthey come across as unappealingly gymmish and overdone: shiny, smooth bodies annelid with veins, and usually something slightly Lou Ferrigno about their faces.\u201d<\/em>, says Julieanne, very accurately<\/a>) why the socks, why the you-are-so-not-on-target-sir cunnilingus and the so sad because mandatory money shot. Why virtually all of my dude friends got a finger in their butt and liked it but SHHHH it virtually doesn\u2019t exist in porn? Why the kid-like pussies? I want some real, prominent vulvas in my face because they scream womanhood and make me uncomfortable that is, hot. Anyway today\u2019s porn standards are very, very, disappointing. Still. It\u2019s a damn shame.<\/p>\n We focus so much the sex work\/porn star talk on rights, it\u2019s not about rights of doing whatever you want with your body, I think you guys are totally doing it. It\u2019s about the actual impact of decades of a pretty vile culture out there, which is far from good. It\u2019s not the lauded acts: it\u2019s the terrible, doesn\u2019t-want-to-die porn design. I believe that men have most of the heavy, sex culture lifting to do and rearrange that mess, which is why we don\u2019t do shit (hey, we\u2019re men!). Of course none of the people making money out of sex will care about the culture they are fostering, nothing personal it\u2019s business and if you young motherfuckers think it\u2019s real life well you\u2019re dumb! People are more capitalist than capitalism itself.<\/p>\n The thing is, there are a lot of not so bright people and I don\u2019t think they deserve to be manipulated, from young folks growing up today confused by our own taboos, lies and double standards toward sex to women who \u201cchoose\u201d to do something pretty hardcore out of necessity or lack of choice. Saying \u201cbut this is how it works\u201d is usually something said by someone out of the problem or profiting the issue. <\/p>\n I don\u2019t think people should get paid to get on their knees and suck genitals, but I don\u2019t think we should pay people to clean up our toilet bowls either. I know it happens, I applaud people\u2019s courage to do those jobs (no, for real) but I ultimately think that people should fuck a lot more (endorphins), for free (FREE ENDORPHINS), and that toilet bowls should have built-in robots. <\/p>\n But this way I just killed very lucrative businesses and if I could do that in a heartbeat in real life, a hit man would be standing in front of me right now, ready to complete the mission. <\/p>\n If only we could live like Bonobos \u201cHi, is there a problem?\u201d *goes down on you*<\/em> we wouldn\u2019t need none of that trade shit. That would be swell, wouldn\u2019t it?<\/p>\n Disclaimer: working sporadically on an erotic game prototype for the past four years, I still do extensive reading and research on sex.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" My biggest problem with all the discussion around sex work and porn is not how it makes some people survive, some people live, some people happy. 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