If you\u2019re a dude in that decade between 10 and 20, chances are you\u2019re spending most of your time with your peers, judging and talking shit about women. We\u2019re here sitting with our beers, telling our friends that we hate that girl or would fuck this one etc. It\u2019s pretty limited. I couldn\u2019t live this past 20, sorry.<\/p>\n
I was 21 and the time was spring 2001 when I went on my own to a feminist meeting. No one knew, at that time feminism was totally unspoken of even though feminism is older than dust. I was in a relationship at that time and I was wondering about the future and how does it work with a woman in your life, stuff like that. I didn\u2019t trust girls when I was a teenager, they all seemed to not know or want anything from when they\u2019ll be adults. To me what women of my generation were supposed to do was to have plans other than stay at home. But it was more complex to approach for them. Anyway, I had given up on getting information from Kurt Cobain and Slash fans. But here I was in my early 20s and wondering how do women feel in this world because yeah, I had never really asked myself that before (yes, pot). And I could already perceive that it was probably very<\/em> different. I wanted to know why. I knew society kind of shapes our behavior too. I wanted to know how. <\/p>\n So there I am, one out of three other dudes, sitting in an overcrowded caf\u00e9 in Paris. Women, all ages, all together. Us, deer shutting the fuck up, smiling awkwardly. And communication began. For my nerdy brain, groking all those points of view was enlightening as fuck. Same patterns as for racism, it helps. I guess it\u2019s way harder for you white guys.<\/p>\n Years and years later, I made lifetime feminist friends, I walked the streets with them, I laughed and felt desperate at the state of what humans know and what we do. I had great sex with some feminists too, it\u2019s all good guys. My dick is fine, didn\u2019t get cut off. But you need to listen and stfu though. It\u2019s a nice principle, I like it. Do the work in your head, in private, thanks.<\/p>\n 14 years later though, it feels strange. Progress has been so slow, it\u2019s even been reverted: in Spain when I started to dig feminism abortion was more than legal it was almost advertised, an Hispanic feature. Now they\u2019re trying to ban that individual, basic woman right. India\u2019s rape culture, barely imaginable. Chris Brown\u2019s fans, Rihanna\u2019s face. Religion back in full force since 9\/11 fucked everything up to be honest. Also weird, the fact that feminism became bankable (hello, pop stars) and made the real arguments, the challenges that we have to take on fall in the background where no one looks at (salaries, anyone?). Meanwhile, dudes and bros don\u2019t even bother evolve, they just ignore everything that says that they need feminism too, they\u2019re too busy fitting in a dumb herd. In the mean time a lot of women took the heat and paid hard for their freedom, pushing a new generation born in this economic clusterfuck to reverse back to the good ol\u2019 times. \u201cWell you go get the money, honey. It\u2019s crazy outside.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n I really don\u2019t think there\u2019s any other way to understand women\u2019s lives thus making society a better place, without digging some feminism and that\u2019s not done with a fight but a conversation where one listens for a very long time. That\u2019s you dude, in case you\u2019re a bit slow.<\/p>\n Change, and re-arrange. The only thing you\u2019re going to lose is the illusion that men run everything. No, we are not. Never been.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" If you\u2019re a dude in that decade between 10 and 20, chances are you\u2019re spending most of your time with your peers, judging and talking shit about women. We\u2019re here sitting with our beers, telling our friends that we hate that girl or would fuck this one etc. It\u2019s pretty limited. I couldn\u2019t live this […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[3],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1907"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1907"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1907\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1908,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1907\/revisions\/1908"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1907"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1907"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1907"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}