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When a DNA Test Shatters Your Identity<\/a><\/p>\n

The man St Clair thought of as her brother only shared enough DNA with her to be a half sibling. In fact, she didn\u2019t match any family members on her father\u2019s side. Her biological father must be someone else. <\/i><\/p>\n

\u201cI looked into a mirror and started crying,\u201d says St Clair, now 56. \u201cI\u2019ve taken for granted my whole life that what I was looking at in the mirror was part my mother and part my dad. And now that half of that person I was looking at in the mirror, I didn’t know who that was.\u201d <\/i><\/p>\n

The DNA test didn\u2019t erase her happy childhood memories, but it recast her entire life up to now. <\/i><\/p>\n

I\u2019m always wondering why white people will tell me that the color of my skin doesn\u2019t matter but as soon as DNA is telling them that that\u2019s not really their sibling or father here, they cry and lose their shit, starting FB groups support and all. LMAO. It\u2019s a trip.<\/i><\/p>\n

Of course there are plenty of secrets and affairs and stuff. It\u2019s as old as the world. But white folks are discovering that, for some reason. Thinking they\u2019re \u201cperfect\u201d. No, you might be the result of a mess. It\u2019s fine.<\/p>\n

Who you are is who you are. Your experiences. The way you treat others. That\u2019s you. That\u2019s all. Who made you doesn\u2019t matter. How, doesn\u2019t matter either. You are you. If you\u2019re older, had kids, own a house then be fucking happy and\/or learn new shit but don\u2019t dwell on how your dad wasn\u2019t really the one you thought he was. That\u2019s completely unproductive.<\/i><\/p>\n

So when a DNA test in 2015 revealed her biological father was likely African American, it clicked into place. But her mom denied it. \u201cShe wouldn\u2019t answer me. She would change the subject,\u201d recalls Lisa. When she kept pressing, her mother broke down, saying it would destroy the family and that her dad\u2014the man she grew up with\u2014would kill her. She refused to say anything else about Lisa\u2019s biological father.<\/i><\/p>\n

Wow.<\/p>\n

But once again, that doesn\u2019t change your life now or in the future. You are who you are. If she had a little thing for black music or spices well now she knows why. That\u2019s it. Yes, your mom had sex with a black man. That sex stuff happens a lot, it turns out. Move on. This weird \u201cbut what does this mean?\u201d question? It doesn\u2019t mean anything. There\u2019s no meaning in having kids, people. Ideally you want them, sometimes you don\u2019t. They just happen, we happen.<\/p>\n

Personally I might have been the result of rape. Or tender love. Or something in between. I will never know! It doesn\u2019t really matter. It\u2019s cool to know I guess, but it objectively doesn\u2019t matter once you\u2019re an adult.<\/p>\n

Freaking out about your DNA ancestry is some kind of privilege.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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