{"id":2937,"date":"2019-12-23T16:56:07","date_gmt":"2019-12-23T16:56:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/?p=2937"},"modified":"2019-12-23T16:56:07","modified_gmt":"2019-12-23T16:56:07","slug":"on-masculinity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/2019\/12\/on-masculinity\/","title":{"rendered":"On masculinity"},"content":{"rendered":"

Great article at The Atlantic<\/a> on the subject.<\/p>\n

What <\/em>the longtime sportswriter Robert Lipsyte calls \u201cjock culture\u201d<\/em><\/a> (or what the boys I talked with more often referred to as \u201cbro culture\u201d) is the dark underbelly of male-dominated enclaves, whether or not they formally involve athletics: all-boys\u2019 schools, fraternity houses, Wall Street, Silicon Valley, Hollywood, the military. Even as such groups promote bonding, even as they preach honor, pride, and integrity, they tend to condition young men to treat anyone who is not \u201con the team\u201d as the enemy<\/em><\/p>\n

That thing is so universal and it always bothered me because it\u2019s bizarre. Why the animosity? Why groups of dudes always end up hating others so much, on sight? I don\u2019t know but this is why I\u2019ve never been in bigger groups than two or three bros. That\u2019s the limit. Bigger and things become wild and stupid.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t spend much time in locker rooms when I was younger. A few years while playing basketball and I didn\u2019t like that stuff. I was in and out, bored at the bravado. Walking back home musty, it didn\u2019t matter.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s the thing: growing up, it wasn\u2019t much about validation from others. It was more like I do my thing and if you don\u2019t like it, fuck all of y\u2019all<\/em>. The concept of masculinity was dead. Prince, Michael Jackson and others had destroyed it.<\/p>\n

There was no bragging, just doing. I remember casually telling my best friend that I had done it. Then we\u2019d hung out listening to some music while I explained how it had happened and so forth. Just a conversation. Bragging was\/is weak. It means you can\u2019t control yourself, from staying humble. Bragging triggers jealousy and a whole lot of bad shit usually spawns from that. Humility is great. One might even say that bitches love humility. I didn\u2019t write that. Back to the article:<\/p>\n

Then she took off her pants. \u201cAnd that,\u201d he said, \u201cwas the first time I ever saw a vagina. I did not know what to do with it.\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n

Eat it, you dumb fuck. Give, stupid. Because if you do and try your best, she\u2019ll do the same with you. You have the internet in your pocket, thousands of pages of women talking about what they want and like with intimacy and you don\u2019t even pay attention. You\u2019re a bum with no curiosity nor focus whatsoever.<\/p>\n

I feel like sex needs to happen early, when hormones are starting to make you lose your mind. Nobody\u2019s fast, Nature tells you you want it. Do it \u2014as clean and soft as possible, no alcohol, no pressure\u2014 and move on. Then you can focus on what\u2019s next in your life. Sex isn\u2019t about power and tearing her shit up. It\u2019s teamwork and smiles, feeling that skin. Smelling. You shouldn\u2019t think about anything.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Great article at The Atlantic on the subject. What the longtime sportswriter Robert Lipsyte calls \u201cjock culture\u201d (or what the boys I talked with more often referred to as \u201cbro culture\u201d) is the dark underbelly of male-dominated enclaves, whether or not they formally involve athletics: all-boys\u2019 schools, fraternity houses, Wall Street, Silicon Valley, Hollywood, the […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[3],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2937"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2937"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2937\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2938,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2937\/revisions\/2938"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2937"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2937"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/har0ld.com\/playground\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2937"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}