Fell on this article about rimming some dude and straight anal sex.. The conclusion says it all for me: “I’m only in the meat body for so long, whatever is going to give this spirit the best experience on earth, I’m taking it. You know?”
Especially something good, harmless and free. So let’s cover the subject.
But why??
Because pragmatism: the area is packed with a mountain of nerves and vessels and muscles, like a lot. It makes sense to use all of that to enhance pleasure, don’t you think? Did you know that the area between genitals and the anus is twice as long in males as in females? That’s some playground stuff right here and so by extension, in the heat of the moment you can lick that little star too, all of that being connected underneath. The act also means that you probably completely trust your partner to do or receive the gesture, which is a sign of a healthy relationship (and why you can’t really rim a butthole on first date). Also a lot of people rim: between gay and lesbians, straight female and straight males who play with theirs, you will not be in the minority if you try:
That’s worldwide. That’s double the interest in half a decade. We are broke, bored and have the internet apparently.
But what about poop??
Well science, Bitch. You have a muscle that acts like an automatic door which is closed by default so unless you or your partner are willing to push and shit in each other’s mouth, it is safe to lick and kiss some ass. If we’re talking about poop in butt hair or around, just demand that stuff to be gone, forever. A clean and moisturized bottom is probably way safer than your coworker’s keyboard so don’t get too paranoid on that. The clean your butt and empty your stomach before playing part is obvious but I guess it needs to be said again.
Let’s say I just got out of the shower, how can I ask my partner to do it, that I’m ready?
No you’re not. You can’t just clean your butt and ask someone to lick it. You need to learn on your own first by touching, squeezing, massaging, pushing, pulling, petting the entire “danger zone” while you imagining her moaning, sucking on your cock. There, I did it all for you.
The point is to get comfortable with your own entire body, first. I’m sure I would be traumatized by anal penetration if it was to happen for the first time with someone else, in an confusing and painfully dry way.
Don’t make your partner responsible for your own body discovery, that’s your job.
Once you know yourself, the asking part is easy. You know what you want and you’ll feel if the partner is up to it and because your butt will be squeaky clean and sexy, she’ll probably go at it on her own. I mean, it happened to me.
Anyway, this stuff takes a while. It takes quite a long time for a straight male to think about something deeper than the penis tip discharge, that moment we’ve been waiting for over and over and over. Boring. It took me about a year between the idea of playing with my butt and understand my body better and find pleasure. Sometimes I would give up. “This is weird and dumb”. Pass that.
Once I found the p-spot, I increased my pleasure gradually for another year, at least. Learning how to breath. I didn’t know what you can get from controlling and playing with the Joy Machine, full throttle, including nipple stimulation. Oh yeah, touching nipples simultaneously with your genitals increases pleasure, for all humans. Nerve connection (in my twenties I HATED any nipple stimulation so I guess it’s a matter of learning). We’re talking about complete blackout of the mind, body shaking-induced orgasms. And at least 5 liters of cum everywhere. La petite mort, the real deal. I feel like it made me hornier, but more in control of it. That is some upgrade. Maybe it’s just me. I don’t think so at all.
It goes full circle: as a boy entering puberty you start shaking the tip of your tiny penis with shame to let some white stuff come out because it apparently wants to, and as an adult you start playing with your butt with shame, to achieve something way stronger than just emptying your balls. There is more to your body than just bodily functions.
*drops the mic*
*waves crowd*